Zimbabwe and South Africa are going through watershed times. Although they do so in different ways, the same ethical principle is at stake in both, namely that integrity is more important than loyalty if we want a lastingly good future. That is why democracies are so much more successful at generating wellbeing on a sustainable basis than dictatorships. Democracies show respect for all by means of inclusivity, equality and freedom. That evokes the commitment of the citizen, whereas dictators never do. They can get obedience but obedience is far less productive than commitment and is thus a poor way to build a winning nation.