David Moseley

My wife left me

2013-11-06 08:46

David Moseley

Over the weekend my wife left me. It's not the first time she's done it, and it probably won't be the last. I always get her back. Slowly but surely I reel her in, but it's starting to take a toll on the relationship.

It's starting to become too much to handle.

I said to her, "never again". And she agreed. But I don't know how truthful she's being.

I asked her to wait, and she said she would. But then she just sped off.

It happens all the time. She did it last year before we got married. And the year before that. She just pulls away, becomes distant and leaves me behind.

Not good enough for her

My friends tell me to give to give up. They even say I'm not good enough for her. It's a bitter pill to swallow.

She's even suggested to me that she finds a better partner. I've encouraged her to find a better partner, in the hope of keeping our team together. But she eventually baulked at the suggestion.

In a way, I agree. I feel like I'm holding her back, that she can't be the person she's meant to be while I'm pulling her down.

At first she was sweet about it, and in the beginning I didn't really mind. I thought I would get stronger and that eventually we would be together, side by side, all the time. But it just hasn't worked out that way.

She's done the same with other men, and does it right in front of me. I'm powerless to stop it.

But I think this weekend was the last straw for both of us.

On Friday morning everything seemed normal. Just another day. But before lunchtime everything had changed. There I was, alone and cold in the rain and she was gone. So far gone that I thought I'd never see her again.

I told my dad later in the day and he just laughed. "Some people are just built like that," he said. "There's nothing you can do." I shook my head in dismay. I thought we could do this forever.

She wants more

But obviously not. My wife is just too restless. She can't wait. She wants more all the time.

I think she's upset that I said I would do it with another guy, a good friend. I don't see why she's angry. If I can't do it with her, I might as well do it with someone I know and feel comfortable with.

The truth is she's just a much better mountain biker than me. So I don't mind that she always leaves me behind on the races. I guess I just need to man up, train harder, get faster.

Then I can leave her behind.

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