Khaya Dlanga

Jailed for lying to get laid

2010-07-27 10:00

Sabbar Kashur, 30, a Palestinian man has been convicted of rape after having consensual hanky panky with a Jewish woman. Yes, I said convicted for rape after having consensual sex. The man has been under house arrest for two years now. What was his crime? He lied to have sex. He told her he was a Jew when in fact he was, shock, horror, Palestinian. He was initially charged with rape and indecent assault. The charge was later changed to rape by deception. Yes. Rape by deception.

Many must thank their lucky stars for not living in Israel. If this were a crime in South Africa and other countries, many men (and in fact women) would end in jail for misrepresentation. Let’s face it; many people represent themselves in the best possible light in order to increase their chances of engaging in that activity called sex.

Let me go back to Sabbar Kashur, the unfortunate Palestinian.

Sabbar Kashur met the woman he would later have sex with in downtown Jerusalem in September 2008. Kashur introduced himself as a bachelor looking for a serious relationship to the young lady. A Jewish bachelor to be precise. The lothario of Jerusalem then had sex with the lady within 15 minutes of having met her. As it turns out, the young lady later found out that Casanova was in fact Palestinian and married.

Seriously now, if this loose young lady was really looking for a serious relationship would she have had sex with a man who was a stranger only 15 minutes ago? I’m sure even negotiating with a common prostitute takes longer. The young lady does not have a single moral bone to stand on for agreeing to have sex with a man she barely knew. It appears she was so morally indignant that she decided to report him to the police when she later found out that he was not a Jew as he had claimed, and married. As a friend of mine said, “How religious can you really be when you have sex with strangers?” Indeed.

Some people want to call this an act of racism by the courts. Let’s hold our horses for a second. There is a precedent in Israel for cases like this one. A man was convicted for fraud after telling women he was a neurosurgeon to impress them before he had sex with them.

The court’s ruling judge wrote, “If she had not thought the accused was a Jewish bachelor interested in a serious relationship, she would not have co-operated. The court is obliged to protect the public from sophisticated smooth-tongued criminals who can deceive innocent victims at an unbearable price - the sanctity of their bodies and souls.”

The judges applied moral relativism here. The man lied about being a bachelor and Jewish. She was loose. They should have been charged together if the judges decided to be the safe guards of morality. I’m not so sure how sanctified this woman’s body was if she had sex with a man she’d just men. If anything, she too should have been charged – for being easy.

If a man sleeps with a woman, when she wakes up in the morning she doesn’t look like the woman that he went to bed with after she has removed her makeup, her fake eyelashes and push up bra. Isn’t that rape by deception? Can he lay a charge as well? I’m just asking. The law is flawed on so many levels.

A lawyer with the Public Defender’s Office in Jerusalem agrees that the court went too far. “The test the court used goes too far, every time a man tells a woman he loves her, based on which she sleeps with him, he could be convicted of rape,” said Elkana Laist.

I reckon a lot women wish there was such a law in this country too. People lie to get laid all the time. Men and women.

This reminds me of an old joke; a prostitute goes to the bank to depots a R200 note. The bank teller puts the note through a machine, the teller says to the prostitute, "Sorry, but this note is a fake." Astonished, she screams, "I've been raped!"

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