3 ways to transform your marriage

By Drum Digital
18 June 2014

Committed relationships require communication, patience and understanding. They also require wisdom. Making wise decisions as they relate to your marriage  are imperative. Our decisions can either transform our marriage into one of love, peace and understanding or one of despair and frustration. Here are a few tips from blackandmarriedwithkids.com on the wise actions we should take that lead to those positive transformations: 

  • Master your tongue
Words can hit harder than a fist. We hold on to hurtful words and it’s hard to move forward once your spirit has been broken by something someone has said to you. Consider the outcome of your words. Your partner has feelings, even when you don’t see eye to eye, their emotions are valid. Look for every opportunity to encourage your spouse. Using words that build the human spirit should come naturally.  A positive shift happens for us when we choose to empower our mates with words of love and affirmation.
  • Regularly declare your commitment
How often do you tell your spouse that you are still totally and completely committed to your partnership? Beyond the wedding day vows, couples don’t often remind one another of those promises. Once a month (or more) recite a few of the vows to your spouse and be sure to put “I still” in front of the them. 

There is power in knowing that, even with relationship ups and downs, our partner is still dedicated and focused on being married to us.

  • Do "it" just because

Apologise, make sacrifices and keep quiet in certain situations.

Apologizing doesn’t mean we were the only one at fault. It simply means we acknowledge our part and want forgiveness.

Couples fail when they keep record of rights and wrongs. The focus should always be how to get back to the happy, together.

Relationship sacrifices will come in many forms: going places we’d rather not and giving in even when we feel as though our spouse isn’t deserving are a couple.

Couples must also remember there are some moments in a relationship where just listening is going to be the absolute best action to take. Again, these are actions we should easily take because we love our spouse.

Relationship wisdom shows up whenever we seek it. The love for our spouse and the desire for a healthy marriage should be enough motivation for us to utilize that wisdom often to transform our most sacred relationship.

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