Ask Sis Dolly: Am I stalking him?

By Drum Digital
25 May 2016

A man I love doesn’t love me, but I don’t know how to get over him.

A man I love doesn’t love me, but I don’t know how to get over him. I called him two years back and he told me he had other girlfriends after he had sex with me and he wouldn’t leave them for me.

One day I called him and he said I should never call him again. He even told the other women I’m his stalker.

I’m deeply hurt and want to forget him as it depresses me that he’s not into me.

Sis Dolly Answers

It doesn’t sound like you were ever together. And if he’s asked you not to call him and you’re still calling him, then you are being a stalker.

Firstly, delete his number so you can start the process of getting over him. Then you need to really look at your behaviour and see where you could benefit from counselling.

I think you might have some issues dealing with reality and possibly some obsessive compulsive issues.

All of this can be dealt with through therapy and support so you can acknowledge if you’re ill and get treatment. If this is not an obsessive compulsive disorder, then it might be an issue that requires a few sessions to help you move on.

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