Ask Sis Dolly: can we have sex?

By Drum Digital
25 February 2016

I’m turning 16 this month.

Is it a problem to have sex with my boyfriend?

He is 29 years old.

Sis Dolly answers:

Yes, it’s a problem and no, you can’t have sex.

The age of sexual consent in South Africa is 16. So technically, as long as

both parties consent, it is “legal”.

Socially, however, I’d be very wary of any grown man who wants to have sex with a child.

Because, at aged 16, you’re still a child and he, at his age, is a grown adult.

I’d be wary for a number of reasons.

Firstly, why is he not able to find a woman closer to his own age?

Secondly, he automatically has more power and control within this relationship, which means you’re not able to negotiate for protected

and safer sex.

You are then vulnerable to falling pregnant and to contracting sexually transmitted infections.

Your primary focus right now should be completing your education and growing into an independent and powerful young woman.

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