Ask sis Dolly: Do I share my status?

By Drum Digital
05 August 2015

I shared my HIV status with him and he didn't take it well.

I'm 24 and my boyfriend was 36. We'd been dating for about three years. He said he wanted space to think about it. When he came back he said we can't be together anymore. When I find someone new, can I tell him about my status?

Sis Dolly answers:

This is not an easy question to answer because I'm not the one who has to live with the rejection or with people's perception of someone who is HIV-positive. My thinking is always to be honest when you start being intimate with each other. Sometimes, this is not going to be an on going relationship, but just an "interlude". Primarily you need to practice safe sex for your own protection as well as that of the other person. If a person insists on using a condom, this will already give you an indication of whether you want to be invoved with them. A person who refuses to use a condom is someone you don't want to date.

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