Ask Sis Dolly: He wants me to choose

By Pheto Ramakobya
05 February 2016

I’ve been dating my boyfriend for seven years.

However, I recently got a job in Johannesburg and he said I must choose between the job and him.

I love him but I also need money because I’m a breadwinner at home in Durban.

Sis Dolly answers:

It’s unfair of your boyfriend to ask you to make that choice because you love him and want to be with him, and also need to make a living.

He might be afraid of losing you and unable to accept that a long-distance relationship can work.

Discuss with him how you’d see the relationship working, talk about how often you see each other and what plans you can make together to make it work.

However, your livelihood and your ability to be happy in future are much more important.

You need to make a choice that works for you, and gives you the freedom and independence you need to take care of yourself in the long term.

Find Love!