Ask Sis Dolly: Her family seperates us

By Drum Digital
03 August 2015

Her brother doesn't want her to come back

I'm 24 and girlfriend is 19 and we love each other dearly. She lived in Pretoria but has now gone back home to Limpopo. . I'm ready to do anything for her, so how do I get her back? She has a child that I've accepted as my own. I was taught to fight for what I love; the problem is that she is a student. How do I convince her brother?

Sis Dolly answers:

She is a child who has a child and who really should be focusing on growing and developing herself, with the assistance and support of her family. You need to tread carefully because this is not about you, but about her family trying to protect her and keep her safe. If you are genuinely interested in pursuing the relationship then you must prepared to be patient. This means keeping in contact with her and being prepared to take a trip to see her in Limpopo, where she may or may not be allowed to see you. If she isn't, you'll need to decide whether you are willing to keep up the relationship through phone calls only for a few years until she's old enough and her family is convinced your intentions are sound. If you are willing to do that, I suggest you start moving on and forget about her.

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