Ask Sis Dolly: He's Hiding His Status

By Drum Digital
21 April 2016

He's Hiding His Status

I’m in love with a man but he didn’t tell me he’s HIV-positive. I found out when I was cleaning the house and saw his ARVs and clinic results which state he’s positive.

I love him, even though we’ve only been dating for four months, and have protected sex.

I try and make him talk and understand how much I love him but he doesn’t want to talk about it. When I asked him to go for the test he says he doesn’t trust it.

What must I do?

Sis Dolly Answers

You need to tell him that you found his medication and clinic results.

It is easy to stumble on the ARVs by mistake. You may face some anger because you invaded his privacy by reading the results, but you did find the medication when you were innocently cleaning.

Telling him is the best way to determine if he can accept you knowing his status and realize your willingness to still be with him.

If you really want this relationship, you should give honesty and open communication a shot and ask him to join you.

For more information about HIV testing and ARVs, call Lifeline’s Aids

Helpline on 0800-012-322.

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