Ask Sis Dolly: How do I deal with my rape?

By Drum Digital
22 September 2016

I’m a 20-year-old girl and in 2015 I was raped by some boys who were sent by my friend (at least, I thought she was my friend), and that traumatised me a lot

I’m a 20-year-old girl and in 2015 I was raped by some boys who were sent by my friend (at least, I thought she was my friend), and that traumatised me a lot.

I started pushing everyone away and started having imaginary friends and I had these dreams of killing those perpetrators.

After a while, I managed to get over it by burying it deep inside but then my stepfather touched me in a very inappropriate way so I went back to being depressed.

The thing is, not only did I hate my stepfather, I hated everything he touched: my mother, his kids, my half-brother and sister and I don’t want to hate them. I just feel so alone and even think about killing myself sometimes.

Please help! You’re my last hope.

How do I deal with all this?

Sis Dolly answers 

It sounds like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders because of the ordeal you went through without any support. It’s amazing that you’ve managed to keep this in your subconscious for so long.

It was inevitable that this was going to come to the surface and your stepfather’s inappropriate behaviour was the trigger. You have to disclose what your stepfather and the boys have done to you, to make sure that action is taken against them and that you are safe.

You’ve been through a lot as a young girl, and now your stepfather is subjecting you to secondary trauma. You urgently need to go for trauma counselling and get the support you need.

Please call Lifeline on 0861-322- 322 or People Opposing Women Abuse on 011 642-4345/6.

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