Ask sis Dolly: I really feel used and betrayed

By Drum Digital
08 July 2015

I don't know what to do.

I'm a 27-year-old mother of one and I've been married to a 33-year-old man for four years now. Everything's been going well until I recently discovered he has been cheating on me. Right now I'ma housewife and I feel used and betrayed. I feel like leaving him. Please help.

Sis Dolly answers:

Discovering that you've been cheated on or betrayed cracks your heart wide open. Everything you thought was the truth now seems like a lie. The person you thought you knew and trusted has abused your trust and is not who you thought they were. Therefore you now doubt yourself too because you can't believe you've been duped. being a housewife always seems more difficult because you're currently dependent on someone else for financial support, which can be dis-empowering and make you feel worthless. What you need to decide for yourself, first, is whether you're willing to stay in this marriage and what you need from your husband that would make you stay. Talk to him and be prepared for what he says because expressing your deep hurt and disappointment could change things as you don't know what he wants from his life. If you have some sense of what you want, you can respond in a way that leaves you feeling empowered. to set up a counselling session, contact Famsa on 011 975 7106/7.

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