Ask sis Dolly: Long-distance woes

By Drum Digital
29 June 2015

I discovered he has a child but I cannot confront him about it.

I'm 19 and in a long-distance relationship with a guy of the same age. I've known him for a long time and we started dating last year. We met up when we could but this year he lost his cellphone and we lost touch. Then he found my number and we talked things out. However, I can't stop thinking about him. we talk every day and he says he likes me too but what if he has someone else where he lives? when I ask him, he says I'm the only one.

Sis Dolly answers:

What you have in your favour is that he went out of his way to find your number and made contact again-this means he definitely likes you, too. However, it doesn't mean he doesn't have a girlfriend or a child. asking about the child doesn't have to be confrontetional. It may feel like a confrontation mainly because he hasn't told you about it. ask him, "Why didn't you tell me about your child? Are you afraid I might judge you?" It also gives you an opportunity to tell him that honesty and openness are very important in a relationship and that's what you'd like for your relationship.

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