Ask Sis Dolly: Meddling mom-in-law

By Drum Digital
19 June 2014

Dealing with a meddling mother-in-law

Andronica asks: My mother-in-law from the Free State recently decided to come and live with us in the North West Province. Worse still, she brought two children with her. My husband says I must look after her but I have our two children to look after. I can’t understand why she’s with us and I’m thinking of leaving my husband. Please help me.

Sis Dolly answers: Anger is a powerful emotion and it can make us do things we may regret in the future. Don’t rush into a decision until you have had an opportunity to thoroughly discuss your feelings with your husband. There may be a good reason why your mother-in- law has left her home for your nest. For all you know, it might have been a traumatic move for her: she might have lost her home or her livelihood.

And who knows? Her stay might be a temporary arrangement between her and your husband. Whatever her reasons for moving in, you must realise that it isn’t easy for your hubby to say no or to ask her to leave.

While I understand your concerns, and I think he should have discussed the matter with you before she arrived, right now he needs your support. I suggest you sit down and talk to your husband about your concerns and the arrangements.

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