Ask sis Dolly: My family secret

By Drum Digital
22 July 2015

The problem is she's my cousin.

I have a beautiful girlfriend and we have a baby girl. I love her more than anything, and she makes me happy. The problem is she's my cousin and my family doesn't know about this. we're planning on moving in together soon. What should I do?

You can't keep your union, child or living together a secret forever. Your choice is to let your family know, or wait for them to find out. The first option is more courageous. It leaves you in control of when they know, and what information they will receive. The second leaves it up to chance and potential rumours that you will have to defend instead of the truth, which you could give them by taking the initiative. I'd advise you to let them know because, either way, it will be difficult situation to diffuse. If you irritate it, you'll have more power and control over how it plays out.

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