Ask Sis Dolly: on-off affair

By Drum Digital
19 May 2014

Reader asks Sis Dolly about her on-and-off relationship

Mantoa asks: I started dating this guy three years ago not knowing he had a girlfriend and a child. When I found out about them, we broke up. A few months later we got back together again but his girlfriend found out and we ended our relationship. I moved on but now he’s making my life difficult again because he keeps contacting me to tell me he needs me in his life. What should I do?

Sis Dolly answers: Don’t fall for his games unlessyou think he’s serious about you.For a while he had the best ofboth worlds, but you deserve betterthan being someone’s sidekickonly to be deserted when he goeshome to his baby’s mama.Has he promised to leave her for you? If not, then you’re wasting your time. You’ll always be second best in this triangle and I think you know it in your heart. You were strong enough to walk away from this mess twice before, so don’t give in now: tell this guy that you’ve moved on and you’re rebuilding a life that doesn’t include him.Trust your instincts: do you really want to be with a man who has all this baggage and a child?Can you trust him after all that’s happened? My feeling is that you shouldn’t be tempted by his sweet talking. He’ll only hurt you again. Let him go, don’t accept his calls or e-mails and find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

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