Ask Sis Dolly: on-off affair

By Drum Digital
12 June 2014

He has a girlfriend but keeps coming back to me.

Mantoa asks: I started dating this guy three years ago not knowing he had a girlfriend and a child. When I found out about them, we broke up. A few months later we got back together again but his girlfriend found out and we ended our relationship. I moved on but now he’s making my life difficult again because he keeps contacting me to tell me he needs me in his life. What should I do?

Sis Dolly answers: Don’t fall for his games unless you think he’s serious about you. For a while he had the best of both worlds, but you deserve better than being someone’s sidekick only to be deserted when he goes home to his baby’s mama.

Has he promised to leave her for you? If not, then you’re wasting your time. You’ll always be second best in this triangle and I think you know it in your heart.

You were strong enough to walk away from this mess twice before, so don’t give in now: tell this guy that you’ve moved on and you’re rebuilding a life that doesn’t include him.

Trust your instincts: do you really want to be with a man who has all this baggage and a child?

Can you trust him after all that’s happened? My feeling is that you shouldn’t be tempted by his sweet talking. He’ll only hurt you again.

Let him go, don’t accept his calls or e-mails and find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated.

Find Love!