ASK SIS DOLLY: Should I keep the baby?

By Drum Digital
15 April 2014

I want to have an abortion but cant tell my boyfriend

Maria asks: I’m 21 years old and I recently discovered that I’m pregnant. I live with my granny who has been trying so hard to put me through school but I still have to write matric. My boyfriend is happy about the pregnancy but when I told him I’m thinking of having an abortion he threatened to stab me. I don’t see how I can raise a baby at this point. I want to have an abortion and tell him I miscarried. Do you think this is the right thing to do?

Sis Dolly answers: 

The important thing is that you shouldn't make any sudden, muddled decisions. What’s clear is that you get proper pregnancy counselling from an experienced health professional. I suggest you begin by calling your family clinic and asking to chat to a counselor.

You can also contact a Marie Stopes clinic in your area (0800-117-785) where you will get advice on whether you can have an abortion (if it’s not too late) and counselling on whether it’s the right decision for you.

You must remember that you have the right to decide whether or not you want to have the child. If you are not more than.

13 weeks’ pregnant, you can abort the baby legally. I can understand your boyfriend’s concerns about losing his child but unfortunately the decision is not his to make. I suggest you sit down and have a heart-to-heart with him. Talk about the options of having the baby, who will look after it and pay for its upbringing. Also explain that you have aims and ambitions in life and it’s not the right time for you to have a child.

Also talk to your grandmother: for all you know she might be more than willing to take care of the child while you make an effort to get your matric and study further so that you can give your child a decent future.

But your first step is finding a counselor who will help you to think about your options.

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