BRA Mo: Lose your mojo and you’ll chase her away

By Drum Digital
17 February 2014

Are you like a bottle of red wine that gets better with age or a Coke that eventually goes flat the longer you leave it open?

Guys, take a moment to think about your love life.

Have you let yourself go – always demanding food and sex but you don’t work out to stay in shape and keep that beer belly away?

Are you bad company? You’re constantly moaning about something, you fret and complain.

When was the last time you made an effort in bed?  Are you considerate of your woman’s needs, willing to make her happy and go down on her if that’s something she enjoys?  Or are you a wham-bam-thank you-Ma’am kind of lover.

If that describes you, then guess what? Chances are she’ll get fed up with it all, cheat on you and make you a fool. Or she’ll go somewhere else and leave you girlfriend-less.

A lot of us men mistakenly think that when we’ve caught the prey, meaning the woman, it’s okay to relax and not make any effort to improve our relationships. We forget that our partners are sexual beings. Most of the time, they are a lot more sexual than we are. However, they don’t easily turn on and off like we do.

Women need variety and spice in their life to keep them excited. We, men, are okay to just do the same routine over and over again.

We have to change our attitude in order for our ladies to always see us as their knights-in-shining-armour.

The fact that most of us are so useless around the house is a standing joke - no, a terrible cliché - for most women. At parties, in pubs and on circular e-mails at the office, the subject wouldn't be funny if it wasn't so true.

It ceases to be amusing when women find themselves running a home single-handed, with no help from their spouse or partner.

And you wonder why she doesn’t find you sexy anymore. You rubbish the idea of Valentine’s Day and don’t even surprise her with a gift. Yes, Valentine’s Day is a European thing and very commercialised. However, if she wants a gift, buddy, then you get her a gift. Don’t be a smart-ass.

See if the following describe you:

Predictable: When you’re in a long-term relationship it’s easy to get stuck in that “missionary position” rut. Change your attitude. Instead of following the same routine of winking at her and placing your hand on her thigh, why don’t you come up with another plan and surprise her.

Nervous:  A lot of women find lack of confidence in the bedroom a huge turn-off. But if it’s just insecurity getting in the way, think of the mind-blowing possibilities you are missing out on. Learn the art of foreplay. There are plenty of books and videos on the subject. Once you use all these tools, your inhibitions will go out the window.

Disinterested: When sex suddenly feels like a weekly chore, it’s time to shake things up. A change of scenery and opportunity to relax and be intimate at leisure will catapult you back to the honeymoon or dating period. Better yet, ask your partner what will please her.

Lazy: Not to be confused with being selfish. Laziness is usually a symptom of being stuck in a rut. Change or improve your dress code. Invest in good pants and shirts. No more Mbhazima Shilowa red socks. That has never been cool.

Ultimately the onus is on us men to lead the relationship from the front. Always be imaginative and exciting.

So, how are you going to spice up your relationship?

Find Love!