I can't control myself

By Drum Digital
27 March 2014

Imagine positive sexual scenarios and banish anxious thoughts.

Good sex is when she’s sexually satisfied.

There’s just no way around it. The means used by medical professionals to diagnose sexual problems is contained in a tome called Dsm iV.

It defines premature ejaculation as a persistent or recurrent ejaculation with minimal sexual stimulation before, during or shortly after penetration – but always before a person wishes.

That’s obviously what bothers you.

United States researchers eric corty and Jenay Guardiani conducted a survey and found that lovemaking lasts from just three to 13 minutes, contrary to the popular fantasy about good sex taking hours of mutual moaning and sighing.

These researchers rated a range of time intervals for sex, from penetration of the vagina by the penis until ejaculation, that they considered adequate, desirable, too short and too long.

Making love is too short if it’s less than two minutes. But the great news for many men is that a dash of just three to seven minutes is considered adequate.

Seven to 13 minutes is the best sex a woman can ever dream of. I know most of us men dream of performing marathons that last up to 30 minutes.

Well it might seem like a great idea for us guys, but it’s too long, painful and simply undesirable for the average woman, says the study.

These findings fly in the face of popular culture, in which men and women seem to believe in the fantasy of huge erections and all-night sex.

The guide is as follows: less than two minutes will leave many women feeling cheated, particularly as they take longer to orgasm than men.

This means an amorous man should at least try to contain his urge to rupture in rapture as soon as penetration occurs.

Or he should give her plenty of foreplay (clitoral stimulation is top of the list).

Premature ejaculation is often related to performance anxiety, so reducing anything that makes a man anxious is important.

The solution?

Lastly, nothing beats the stop-start method for delaying ejaculation. Just before you’re about to explode, stop thrusting and allow the feeling of the imminent orgasm to pass.

Essentially, you’re teaching your body to get used to being excited. Then you can stretch out the pleasure until you’re confident she’s satisfied.

Practising this technique will give you the control and the confidence of an adonis.

-Bra Lucas

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