What do you think: Single parenting

By Drum Digital
31 October 2014

We recently asked our Facebook SuperMoms if they’re a single parent and if they are what their biggest challenge is. Here’s their response.

What SuperMoms think:

Nicky Altenroxel Being Mom, Dad, doctor, maid, cook and playmate all in one. But the advantage is there’s only one set of rules!

Josephine Mbatha You’re both the mother and father. They depend on you in every way. There’s no me-time; it’s all about them. You put them first in everything you do and you end up forgetting about yourself. It’s tough.

Linda Johnson Discipline and finance.

Itumeleng Precious Being everything to your kids and supporting them on your own.

Pat Wakgotla The financial part and trying to make them not feel the absence of their dad.

Thuba Sibisi Financial support . . . the rest is bearable!

Here are some tips for raising a child alone:

  • Show your love. Spend time with your kids as often as you can and make every moment count! Remember to praise your child. Give them your unconditional love and support.
  • Create a routine. Keep mealtimes, bedtimes and the time the family wakes up in the morning fairly consistent. A predictable routine structures your day and helps give your child a sense of security.
  • Get a handle on finances. It’s important to take steps to budget your money, learn about long-term investments, plan for college and retirement, and if possible enhance your earning power by going back to school or getting additional job training.
  • Set limits and be consistent with discipline. Explain house rules and expectations to your child. Take charge when necessary and discipline accordingly, consistently and fairly.
  • Don’t feel guilty. Don’t blame yourself or spoil your child to try to make up for being a single parent.
  • Take care of yourself and give yourself breaks. Recharge your batteries, include physical activity in your daily routine, eat a healthy diet and get plenty of sleep.
  • Treat your kids like kids. With the absence of a partner, it’s sometimes tempting to rely too heavily on children for comfort, companionship or sympathy. Seek out adult friends and family members to talk to. Or seek counselling if necessary.
  • Build a community. A strong community can provide emotional support and a sense of belonging. Call on trusted loved ones, friends and neighbours for help.
  • Stay positive. It’s easy to become overwhelmed by all the responsibilities and demands of single parenthood. It’s OK to be honest with your child if you’re having a difficult time, but remind them things will get better. Try to keep your sense of humour when dealing with everyday challenges.

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-Janine Nel

Sources: parenting.com, babycenter.com, childdevelopmentinfo.com, womansday.com

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