5 steps to help you leave an abusive relationship

By Faeza
23 November 2016

Leaving an abusive relationship can be very difficult especially if you do not know where and how to leave.

In the spirit of The 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children we have put together a short list to help you leave a toxic relationship.

Speaking to Tumelo Muteme who is a domestic violence survivor and activist she says once the victim has decided to leave they need to have a plan of action in place.

Tumelo Muteme left her toxic relationship using these five steps:

- A victim needs to get support from family and friends.

- If the victim lived with her attacker, it is best she moves out. She must take all her important documents and give them to a family member she trusts.

- A restraining order from the courts is very important, it will force the abuser to stay away and keep their distance from the victim. Once a restraining order has been put into place the victim must also not make contact with their abuser because if they do the abuser won't take the restraining order seriously.

-To prove that you are serious, when the abuser goes against the terms in the restraining order report them to the police.

- Another important factor is to get counselling, because abuse is very traumatic.