Age difference blues

By Faeza
07 December 2015

 Age difference blues

I’m a 25-year-old woman dating a 41-year-old guy. We love each other but I’m scared about what my family will say about the age gap when they find out about this, because this guy wants us to get married now and they will get to know his age. I’m so confused. Please help.

Anonymous, East London


You are the person to decide who you want to date and marry. Family may advise you but, further than that, there is not much that they can do about your choice of partner. However, if you are not comfortable with what you are doing yourself, then there is a problem and you need to look at it. The age gap is quite big, but if you acknowledge that and discuss potential challenges with your partner, and how you will deal with them, you may be more comfortable with your decision.