Ask The Move! Expert

By Faeza
26 November 2015

Sex is painful

I’m 24 and have been in a relationship for seven years. For two years now, sex has been painful for me. I’m scared that my boyfriend will cheat.

Anonymous, Bloemfontein

Dr Eve answers

Since your pain only began two years ago, ask yourself what happened in your relationship to make you unhappy, angry and distrustful. Perhaps you feel your boyfriend does not listen to you. All these things add up and your private part shuts down. Do not force yourself to have sex, and definitely not sex that is painful. Rather talk to each other about your feelings. And if he’s going to cheat, he will anyway.

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