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Do you experience pain every time you bonk? This could be the reason why

By Faeza
09 November 2016

Do you ever find yourself making up excuses to not engage in sexual intercourse with your partner every time he suggests for you two to do the deed? Do not worry you are not alone a number of women tend to experience female sexual dysfunction: the medical term for the recurrent and persistent problems with sexual response, desire, orgasms or pain that cause a strain on your relation.

    Types of Sexual Pain Disorders According to Sex therapist, Dr Elna McIntosh of DISA Sexual and Reproductive  Health Care Clinic, Dyspareunia which is also known as pain felt during intercourse, is usually split into two spheres deep and superficial pain.     The deep pain is usually caused by lack of lubrication during sexual intercourse, a pelvic inflammatory disease or even endometriosis. Lack of arousal usually causes discomfort due to failure of the womb  to lift up and the walls of the virgina do not swell and open up so they can accommodate the thrusting manhood.   The superficial pain is usually caused by an outbreak of thrush, genital herpes or muscle spasm  in the virginismus.   According to Dr McIntosh sensitivity to condoms and contraceptive creams and devices can also be linked to pain during sex. The level of pain can range from being a mild form of discomfort to server.  Sometimes the pain can be felt as a burning sensation, sharp, dull or intense pain during or after intercourse.

  How you can treat the problem   Dr McIntosh states that once a woman starts experiencing pain or bleeding during or after sex they need to consult with their doctor. “Treatment will vary from the change of position during sex, use of lubrication, drug therapy or further investigation according to what the problem is,” says Dr McIntosh.     She added that after the physical pain has been dealt with couples need to deal with the mental association linked to sex and pain. Couples can either deal with the emotional problem by talking or reading self-help books, for the more difficult cases the problem can be resolved with sex therapy.

  Where you can get help   *South African Sexual Health Association: 0860 100 262 *South African association of Sex educators, counselors and Therapists: 011 787 1222