He Doesn’t Seem To Have Time For Me

By Faeza
06 October 2015

Question He Doesn’t Seem To Have Time For Me

I met my boyfriend four years ago. We have a three-year-old son together. We were happy until last year, when he cheated on me and impregnated another woman. I forgave him and he eventually dumped the woman. He used to chat with me, phone or visit me, but now it takes him days to talk to me or see me. I confronted him about this but he just says he loves me and wants a future with me. I love him, but I think that if he loves me, he will have to prove it with actions and not just his empty words. Am I right?

Anonymous, Queenstown

Sis Naledi answers

You seem to have the answer and you got it right. Actions speak louder than words. Anything you push him to say beyond what you see will only invite what you want to hear. Having a child with another woman and leaving her just like that should worry you as that rejects on the kind of a person he is. A future with you means investing for that future now. How do you plan on having a future with someone you can’t spend time with?