HELP: "I don’t really enjoy bonking since my divorce"

By Faeza
21 October 2016

Anonymous from Soweto writes: 

I’m a 29-year-old woman. My

problem is that I don’t enjoy

sex since my husband divorced me.

I try to forget about him but I can’t.

Dr Eve answers:

Sex is about fun and pleasure.

It’s a time when you connect

with yourself and another

person in a way that makes you feel

very intimate and vulnerable.

You are still feeling attached to your

marriage that you have this on your

mind. No wonder you do not enjoy

being sexual with someone else.

I suggest you lower your expectations

of how happy you should feel

with sex.