HELP: "I hate bonking because it is painful"

By Faeza
27 September 2016

Anonymous from Pretoria writes: 

I’m a 22-year-old woman who has had sex more than 10 times. But I still don’t feel any pleasure when making love. All I feel is pain which makes me hate sex. What could

be the problem? Please help.

Dr Eve responds:

I understand that women ‘feel nothing’ when they begin having penetration. It is because there are no nerves inside the private parts. You need to enjoy clitoral stimulation as well as all other kinds of sexual play for you to feel anything. However, you should not be feeling pain. I suggest you visit a sexual health provider so you can learn to avoid painful sex.