HELP: "I hate my boyfriend"

By Faeza
28 June 2017

Anonymous from Rustenburg:

I am a 36-year-old woman who has been in a relationship with a man for 17 years.

Through all these years, he cheated on me and abused me. After he resigned from his work in 2012, I got a job in 2013 and have been providing for him and our children. I don’t love him anymore.

Sis Naledi responds:

Staying in an abusive relationship is the first problem that needs to be addressed. You have to work for him and the children alone and this may bring more resentment

on your part. All these will affect your feelings towards him and if left unaddressed will lead to a reverse abusive behaviour on your side. Please get counselling.