HELP: "I want to meet my married man's wife"

By Faeza
03 March 2017

Anonymous from Polokwane writes:

I’m a 23-year-old mother of two children. I have been in a relationship with a married man

for two years. My children love him so much. He also treats me like I’m his wife. He shares everything with me. The problem is that he knows my family and I don’t know his. I want to meet his wife and children because in his Tshivenda culture he can marry two wives. Is

it possible that he will marry me? I feel like I’m wasting my time.

Sis Naledi responds:

I guess you have the answer to what you are asking me. If he wants to have a second

wife, even in Tshivenda culture, there are processes to follow. Let him do things the proper way. Otherwise, I am afraid you are playing hard and unfortunately the children are involved in that game.