HELP: "I’m HIV+ but my man refuses to use a condom"

By Faeza
17 November 2016

Anonymous from Mabopane writes: 

I’m HIV positive but my boyfriend

is negative. He knows about my

HIV status, but he doesn’t want

to use a condom. Is he infected

already. Please help.

Dr Eve answers:

Your boyfriend has put

himself at risk by knowingly

having sex with an HIV

positive person. I think you

agreed to practice unsafe sex

because you are afraid to insist

on a condom. Nowadays your

boyfriend can be on ARVs and

prevent becoming infected.

Also if you are on ARVs your

viral load is low which makes it

very difficult for you to transmit

HIV. However, you will always

need to use a condom