HELP: "My ex-boyfriend is now my bonking mate"

By Faeza
14 October 2016

Anonymous from Midrand writes:

I have a problem with my exboyfriend. Although he dumped me after we dated for four years, I still love him. We call each other quite often. When we meet up, we also make love.

He’s got a girlfriend and I’m also in a relationship. I’m very confused.

Sis Naledi answers:

You cannot keep confusing yourself, either you are back with him or not. Don’t reduce

yourself to that level of having meaningless relationships. You will miss the opportunity

of developing a relationship with someone who values you if you keep on clinging to your past. You may be softening up to him because you are familiar with him but remember, he found no value in you and dumped you. What has changed now?