HELP: "My man does not satisfy me"

By Faeza
30 May 2017

Anonymous from Umlazi:

I’m a 25-year-old woman. My man has a problem with delayed ejaculation. He has never

ejaculated through normal sex since we met seven months ago. Lately, when we have sex I just stay dry. This offends him and makes me anxious to the point where I no longer enjoy sex. Should I leave him?

Dr Eve responds:

Women love to see and hear men ejaculating. It is comforting and makes them feel desired and tells her that the man is aroused by her. So I understand your distress and self blame because your partner does not ejaculate with penetration. There are many ways for a man

to ejaculate, not only through penetration. Once you have checked with him that he finds you attractive, is aroused with you and has a good sexual time with you, let him ejaculate however it suits him. Only problem happens when you want children. He needs to talk to

you about his delayed ejaculation as I can hear you are angry. He seems to accept it and not see your distress.