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HELP: "My married lover is using me emotionally and sexually"

By Faeza
16 November 2016

Anonymous from Rustenburg writes: 

My lover has been separated with his wife for about three years. But they still have not divorced and they have two children. He always complains about being ill-treated by his estranged wife. Although I love him so much, I told him that I don’t want to be his second


Sis Nandi responds:

The sad part is that your lover is still hung on the marriage; while you are a side chick who provides comfort and relief. You are going to be used emotionally and sexually in that relationship. Let him go and deal with his family matters without you being the ‘psychologist’ or ‘social worker’ for him. You may love a person but not have a relationship with them because it is not the right time or person for you. Do not make decisions with your heart alone, let your mind to help you as well.