I love him but I don’t want him to touch me

By admin
17 October 2013

“I am a 28-year-old married woman with one child. My problem is that when my husband wants to make love, I don't feel like making love to him. However, when he is away at work, I think about him, wishing that he would come back home and that we could make love. When he arrives and starts to touch me, I just freeze. I start to hate him and can't even kiss him. Sometimes I feel that he can sense it or he can see into my mind. I love him so much that I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I don't know what to do about this situation. Please help me.” – Dudu   Move! Expert advice  

Yours is a common story. It shows you are a healthy, sexual woman who thinks about sex and wants it, but there are obstacles to having sex with your husband when he is available. You have to work out what these obstacles are.

Many women feel the way you do because of resentment towards their men. The resentment and anger get in the way and the woman cannot be sexy with her man when he gets home at night. Perhaps you are angry with him for not helping you enough at home or with your child. Maybe you do not enjoy the way he approaches you for sex. And maybe you do not enjoy the way he makes love to you. Think about how you feel when he walks in the door, and then do some serious talking with your man. Asking for what you want is indeed very difficult. Good luck.