I’m in love with a 50-year-old man

By admin
26 October 2013

“I am a 39-year-old woman and I’m in love with a 50-year-old man. He has three children and I have a 20-year-old daughter. I love this man and would like to have a baby with him. I have asked him to give me a baby and he keeps on postponing it. I am afraid that he is ageing because he has cancer of the private parts, and I feel that my hopes of having a baby with him are being thrown away. I want to know if there is still hope for us to conceive a baby. I love him very much and I care about him.” – Worried

      Move! Expert advice  

I don’t know whether you two can have a baby together. You will both have to undergo specialised medical tests to find out. You are coming to the end of your fertility years and if he has cancer of his genitals, there may be less chance that he is fertile and can make a baby.

I find it interesting that you want him to give you a baby so badly. Babies are not gifts we make to prove our love or to keep a lover. I encourage you to find other ways of making yourself feel safe and secure with the man you love. You should also respect his unwillingness to have another child. He sounds like a sensible man who has a serious illness and knows how expensive it is and what a big responsibility it is to raise children. Think about what you really want from him and ask for these things.