Relationships: What type of partner are you?

By Faeza
10 June 2016

Let's hope too many of these don't apply to you...

1. The complainer

Are you constantly whining and discontent? Do you make it so hard for your man to please you? Relax and reassess: you will never be happy in life if you pay more attention to what you lack than what you have.

2. The jealous type

Are you insecure, unsettled when your man works with, or even talks to, female friends?

Relax: your man is a good man and that’s why you chose him. He is your man. No other woman will take your place. Be secure as his queen.

3. The mother substitute

Are you treating your man like a boy? Telling him what to do, how to do it, and when to do it? Do you correct him as if you are disciplining a child? Do you touch him like a man or handle him like a boy? Lady, men love to be treated like grown men. Be a mother to your child, but treat your man like a capable adult.

4. The needy type

Are you too dependent and clingy? Do you choke your man with you demands, demanding that he talk to you every 10 minutes despite knowing he is genuinely busy? Do you suffocate your man in need of abnormal attention?

Warning: don’t push him to the edge.

5. Ms Pushy

Are you living in tomorrow? Forcing your man to go to the next step when today is fresh. Are you the type to meet a new man and already be pushing for love, then as soon as you start dating you push him to propose, then you quickly want marriage? Lady relax, you will miss out on the steady and sure growth of love because of your haste. Love is a process - not a race.

6. The touchy type

Are you the type who loves to touch, to hold hands, to constantly have your hand on your man? If your man doesn’t understand you, he might find your touchiness too much. Hopefully the man you choose loves to be touched a lot.

7. The victim

Are you the lady who loves to get attention by dwelling on your problems, so that your man feels sorry for you? Do you find comfort in presenting yourself as the victim and how unfair the world is to you? Lady, this self-pity to gain attention is not healthy. You can’t do this for long without your man feeling drained. Work on yourself.

8. The bossy type

Do you give orders and commands, never listen to your man, and it always has to be your way? Lady, tame yourself: your man reads this as you having no respect for him and his decisions.

9. The childish girl-woman

It’s wonderful to be fun and silly at times. But look at your man’s reaction to tell whether there are things you do that he finds too childish.

10. The suicidal threat maker

Are you manipulative, daring that you will do something life threatening so that you arm-twist your man? This is the quickest way to make your man want as little as possible to do with you. You have serious issues: deal with them.

11. The irrational type

Do you rush into making regrettable decisions? Is your tongue loose and speaking words that you haven’t thought through? Do you do things that you will not be proud of? Do you keep changing your mind, making you look unstable?

A man who loves you will love you despite this weakness. But work on being an emotionally stable woman who is patient and thinks things through. This will help you in love and in life.

12. The over-thinker

Do you worry too much? Are you not at peace because of over-thinking? When your husband is making love to you, do your many thoughts keep you from enjoying your husband? When enjoying quality time with your man, does your mind wander going all over the place?

Learn to relax: over-thinking robs you of the beauty of precious real-time moments.

13. The suspicious type

Are you treating your man like a criminal, quick to assume your man is cheating or doing wrong? Do you snoop through his stuff, and put him on the spot for no reason? Does your tone suggest you don’t trust him? It hurts a man when his woman doesn’t believe him.

14. The lost soul

Do you lose yourself in the relationship/marriage, and have no drive, or vision of your own? Are you escorting your man through life but have nothing to live for on your own?

Find yourself now! Your man doesn’t want an escort or a rubber stamp: he wants an equal partner.

15. The perfect lover but pathetic friend

You are good at doing things lovers do. You say romantic things, go out on dates, kiss, but you two are not true friends. You are not free to be yourself with him: you would rather share your challenges and issues with another person. Work on being not only lovers, be the best of friends.

16. The warmonger

Are you defensive, confrontational, and constantly looking for a fight? Simmer down. Your man wants to be loved, not attacked.

17. The secretive type

Do you keep things from your man because you think your man can’t handle it or because you fear your man won’t love you if he knows? Trust him and learn to open up.

18. The extreme feminist

Have you concluded in your heart that men are the enemy, that this a gender war? This negative attitude will cause you to want to prove points and drive your man away. Relax and allow yourself to receive some masculine love as you give your feminine love. It’s about equal rights – not domination by one sex over another.

19. Are you always right?

Do you always have to win? Do you stop at nothing to show how your way is best? Love is about talking things out, listening, compromising and making joint decisions.

20. The loving type

This is the type every man needs. A woman who is dependable, caring, secure, thoughtful, mature, giving, nurturing, challenging. She brings out the best in her man. Lady, keep loving him like you do.

 This article is courtesy of  Capital Lifestyle