The single woman: life, love and a dash of sass

By Faeza
24 November 2015

Title: The single woman: life, love and a dash of sass

Author : Mandy Hale

When a friend borrowed me this book and the title read: The single Woman, I rolled my eyes, gave her the side look and a fake smile, secretly thinking to myself; gosh! Not another one of these. Was she hinting that it was time to rescue me from my single woman status?

Now don’t get me wrong, I’m all about finding love and living happily ever after, but I was tired of reading books about how to find a man, how to keep a man, how to get a man to put a ring on it, or even better how to survive being single, as though it was a plague, of which tools were provided for you if you were to come out of it alive.

But, a couple of pages into this book changed all that. It does not play on the stigma surrounding single woman, but it celebrates being single! It has a refreshing take on embracing your single status and being fulfilled as a woman even though you are not part of a couple.

Mandy Hale has a talent for inspiring women, and in this book she shares her life advice, personal stories with a touch of humour and inspirational quotes that go beyond just being single, she shares advices that can be used in every aspect of your life.

“ An amazing thing happens when you stop seeking approval and validation: you find it. People are naturally drawn like magnets to those who know who they are and cannot be shaken! Looking to someone else for things you should be giving yourself only serves to water down the person you were born to be. It is vital to be so rooted in who you are that you are not yanked off your feet by someone else’s opinion or disapproval.” Lines like that made me take note and paved the way to how I read and analysed the book moving forward. And when I came across the sentence that read: “if you want your life to be a five star reality, stop settling for a fast food mentality” I was sold!

The Single woman, love life and a dash of sass, is a quick and easy read, light hearted, but packed with rich content. Its like having a conversation with your best friend. It is not so much an exploration of the fabulousness of a single life, but a good reminder on how to enjoy life. It was refreshing to read a book that didn’t school you on the deeper meaning of life and overload you with subliminal quotes that leave you feeling more confused and drained than you were before you picked it up.

My biggest compliant to Mandy, however, is the picture she portrays about our married counterparts. She makes me feel like as a married woman, you cannot find yourself, explore who you are or make mistakes, it’s like she’s saying being married is a death sentence for self-exploration. This book makes me feel like if I decide to get married I forfeit all my rights to being an individual, which did not sit well with me because I have a wild imagination, so the mental image in my head after reading this book of a married woman consists of being dragged in shackles like Kinta kunte into someone else’s life and being forced to strip off my freedom and watching them burn it in bourn fire while they laugh hysterically in the background (I told you I have a wild imagination). My point is, she makes single life seem more fun than married life.

Final verdict: if you want to feel good about yourself and being single in your late 20s and above, then this book will inspire you and encourage you to live the best version of yourself. And if you still feel like you want more of Mandy, follow her on twitter with the handle @SingleWoman, which is where her inspiration for her book came from.

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