Things to remember before you say 'I do'

By admin
20 June 2014

Getting married is exciting; you find someone you love who loves you back and you’re going to start a life together but making it last is hard work . Getting the right start makes it easier. Here are a few tips from Vusi Ngema on getting the right start to your marriage before the big day.

  • See a marriage counse llor

Pre-marital counselling can be done by a pastor or a trained marriage counsellor. It will help you build a solid foundation for your union. It’s easy to fall in love, but sustaining that love in

marriage can be hard.

  • Discuss your expec tations

It’s important to discuss what your expectations are before you say ‘I do’. Assess whether they match. This is very important because it will give you an idea of what you are entering into.

  • Discuss your sexual past

It’s important to test for Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs), including HIV, before you get married. If one of you should be infected, this step will ensure that the other partner does not become infected as well by taking preventative measures.

  • Talk about finances

You must both do credit checks at the credit bureau. You need to check your debts, judgements and defaults as you’ll both be affected by these if you want to buy a house or car.

  • Religious beliefs

Most couples often take their religious beliefs for granted before they tie the knot. For example, it’s not wise to get married to someone who believes in ancestors when you do not.

  • spend time with his family

Marrying someone means marrying his family, as well. They are part of who he is, and you need to spend time with them in order to understand what you are getting yourself into.

  • Involve your children

If either of you has children, sit down with them and tell them that you are planning to get married.

It’s important to explain to them the changes that will happen. For example, tell them about the reality of moving in together.