What to do when you fall in love with your boyfriend's father

By Faeza
21 February 2017

Anonymous from Soweto writes:

I am a 35-year-old woman and I have been dating a 26-year-old man for the past eight

months. Our relationship has been great and he even introduced me to his family. He lives with his 47-year-old father, who is a divorcee, and the problem started when I started spending a lot of time at my boyfriend's house. I have started developing feelings for his father and by the way he looks at me, I think he likes me too. I don't know what to do. Please help.

Move Expert responds:

Joyce Seakamela, a counsellor who is based in Johannesburg, says, “Love is a beautiful thing when it is shared by two people. In your case, you are assuming that the 47-year-old man loves you by the way he looks at you. You have been in a relationship with his son, who is your Ben10, for the past eight months and within those eight months you believed and could see that he loves you. But the real question should be: What do you look for in a relationship? Are you looking for love, stability, growth and financial security? You need to

be honest with yourself and be willing to live with the decision you are going to make. Remember that only what you want can make you happy."