Will he leave his wife?

By Faeza
01 December 2015

Aus' Naledi answers

I’m in a relationship with a married man. He is my supervisor at work and is four years younger than me. He always tells me he loves me and he’s going to marry me. We have not yet had sex, but he keeps saying I’m his future wife. Every time we chat he asks me about my children and whether they are fine. I did not love him at first, but I think I’m now in love with him. Is it possible he will marry me?

Anonymous, Pretoria


Anything is possible in today’s world, but I hope you are not dreaming of him leaving his wife and kids one day to be with you. Men will tell you whatever it is you want to hear and make you feel good. Rather work at developing a good relationship between your kids and their father so that you don’t end up in situations where you need other men to love your kids. Don’t allow your needs and fears to drive you. You are worth more than you think you are right now.