Dear abusers, there is no situation that can justify abusive actions, so there are two to three things that you have to bear in mind as an abuser in a country which is considered to be fully democratic. Any sort of abuse will never come up with positive results, but only increase the negative side of the matter. I believe and agree that nothing lasts forever in this world, which is why even a product has an expiry date. Any kind of abuse can come into standstill as long as we consider change as the first priority.
How can you say and be proud that someone loves you while she is scared of you? I am tired of reading about abusive relationship stories across all media platforms on a daily basis. People should report any actions that link to any kind of abuse wherever they are. It can be in a workplace, family or church especially men and they should stop hiding behind their masks of glass because eventually you are going to either shatter or completely crack.
Abuse can happen to anyone, yet the problem is often overlooked, excused or denied. Imagine you have a daughter/son and she/he is dating someone like you. Would you smile? Obviously not. To all victims of abuse remember that your dignity may be assaulted, vandalised and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered. The Department of Social Development is there for everyone and it is waiting for your complaints regardless of gender or class in a society.
Writes Miyelani Hlungwani, Mukhomi Village