“BLESSERS”, also known as “sugar daddies” have taken over the lives of many young women in South Africa.
These blessers promise money, expensive clothes, trips around the world and all sorts of luxuries in exchange for sex.
Blessers also have a Facebook site called the Blesser Finder where they advertise themselves as people looking for blessees.
The page has levels that are catogorised from level one to level three whereby a level one blesser spoils his partner in places such as five-star hotels and high-profile entertainment venues.
A level two blesser takes his partner on a holiday around Africa. A level three blesser pays his partner to tour around the world with him and gives her a shopping allowance, and more.
Fever reporter spoke to a few people to hear their views about blessers.
Sithandiwe Ximba: “I think most women are very desperate and will do anything for money. They forget that these sugar daddies will ruin their lives and hurt them because most are married with children.”
Portia Xulu: “Blessers are destroying the lives of young women and teenagers. They do whatever they want because they have money and the sad thing is they target young girls who are still virgins and call them ‘the fresh ones’. It is sick and disgusting.”
Dudu Mzimela: “It breaks my heart when I hear about the term ‘blesser’, I have a teenage daughter and I always pray to God that she doesn’t fall victim to them. Girls and women should think before getting involved with older men or blessers. They should think of the consequences such as HIV, pregnancy and STIs.”
The Department of Health in KZN has on-going campaigns to fight the “sugar daddy syndrome”.
KZN Health MEC Sibongiseni Dhlomo said the spread of HIV in this cirle will not go away unless the phenomenon is actively confronted and condemned by all sectors of society.
“Research shows us that almost all children who enter school and finish in Grade 7 are HIV negative, both boys and girls, unless there are one or two cases of failed prevention of mother to child HIV transmission.
“The following year, as they go to high school, the status quo prevails, they are all HIV negative. But when they complete Grade 12, about seven to 10 % of girls are HIV positive, yet the boys remain HIV negative.
“This is because the girls are not sleeping with boys of the same age. They get infections from the older generation. So, when they enter university, 10% of the girls are HIV positive.
“But by the time they finish their Honours degree after four years, there is 25% HIV positivity among both boys and girls, which means they have infected each other. Therefore, as society we need to confront and condemn this practice where old men with big cars go after young women. It should have no place in society,” he said.