Parenting - domestic love

2016-04-13 06:00
Nhla Dlamini-Ngcoya (front, left) and Dr Gcina Mhlophe (centre, back) with teachers and pupils from Kwasoni Primary School, Illovo. Photo: supplied

Nhla Dlamini-Ngcoya (front, left) and Dr Gcina Mhlophe (centre, back) with teachers and pupils from Kwasoni Primary School, Illovo. Photo: supplied

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I CHOOSE not to hear the words “domestic violence” anymore, but rather “domestic love”.
When I was very young my mother was a school principal in a rural area of Eshowe called Empaphala. I started going to school with her from the age of four, because there were no preschools in the area I would go to Grade 1, which means I repeated it three times before I was the right age to proceed to Grade 2.

In those years I learnt a lot about poverty. At first there would be four classes in one church hall, just facing different directions. You can imagine the amount of attention and control the teachers had to have.

Eventually funding was granted for a beautiful school building, but it didn’t change the poverty that some of the children were experiencing at home. We spent a couple of years at Engedlesi Primary and my mom was transferred to start another disadvantaged school - Isiphezi Primary School. There some of the classes were conducted under the trees.

This is where my love for children came from and the understanding that “it takes the whole village to raise a child”, especially in our culture, parenting is not something you can do in isolation. It’s always been my wish to make a difference in another person’s life in any way I can. I have started an initiative to find schools in the rural areas to give love and hope to the children there.

6 April, was the first of many to come at Kwasoni Primary School, the intention was to give love and hope to these children. I was blessed that my mentor and spiritual mother, Dr Gcina Mhlophe, well-known storyteller and author, was able to come with me to share her story of hope with the children.

I also do talks about the challenges the children go through these days, ways to prevent them and where to report things like rape and other forms of abuse. I emphasise on the importance of education, self love, cleanliness and being optimistic.

I would like to thank everyone who donated something towards this visit, God bless you all and always remember “every happy memory created for a child is another treasure of a lifetime”.

Children who do not receive love, attention and support become vulnerable and often turn to substance abuse, criminal activity, prostitution, early pregnancies, etc.
By turning a blind eye to these children will only be doing a disservice to us and our country as a whole. I humbly ask anyone who would like to contribute towards this life- changing initiative to contact me onnhlangcoya
- Nhla Dlamini-Ngcoya.

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