Is there any chance of finding girls who cook like their mothers rather than drink like their fathers nowadays.Do child-makers still produce the kind of young, beautiful girls who behave in a manner that is expected of the ‘flowers of the nation.These questions flooded mind after the tragedy at Osi’s Place in Khayelitsha.For the record: Eight women between the ages of 15 and 23 met their deaths when the stairway railing at the tavern in Makhaza gave way. Two of the eight died on the way to hospital after the car in which they were being transported in to hospital was involved in an accident. “But why open wounds that are beginning to heal. This tragedy is too soon, I hear you say. But, for me, the painful truth is that the tragedy could have been avoided.All the victims are females, from whom society expected much more than just dying at a shebeenThis, while there were also men at the venue, most of whom were probably regular patrons. That thought refuses to leave my mind. How much more for the parents, as this happened on the first weekend of the school holidays.Ingaba bekukhutshwa iphepha? Yours truly, as you might be aware, does not keep a distance from icy cold liquids and, as a result, finds himself frequenting shoddy places around kasi. I think I’m in some form of a position to say this was no isolated incident. In the quest for entertainment, and to fit in, young girls can be seen at drinking spots on weekends and at all hours. Sometimes they are in the company of friends or men. But what is blatantly clear is that girls of today have long lost respect for self. Like this one night in Delft, I went to the gents’ and stumbled upon a sight that was disturbing to the eyes and ethics.There lay a young female patron, resplendent in white attire, surrounded by her own vomit.She had had one too many and, were it not for her friends, could easily have fallen prey to n unscrupulous male patron/s.I know it is one of those sensitive topics to tackle; the elephant in the room. But is it not high time that parents know that this is what their daughters are mostly doing when they say they are “out with friends”? Following the tragedy at that tavern, everyone and his dog had something to say in the public transport domain, including on social network sites and letters’ pages. Comments ranged from blaming parents for this and that.Yada yada yada. But methinks it’s not so much a lack of good parenting than it is about making the right choices. As a parent, you can only give sane advice, but whether it is taken or not, is another story. It cannot be that after supper everyone goes to sleep. Youngsters are known to sneak off into the unknown. Can we blame the parents.We live in an ever-changing world where young girls are gullible enough to believe in a Utopian lifestyle. Oh, how I long for those days when girls were girls! Bring back our girls!