Abuse is a learned behaviour

2015-12-17 06:00

Nowadays, falling in love with a man is like dating your own coffin as some partners have allowed violence to become a normal part of their lives.

Women’s love can be wiped out by man’s abuse.

Abusers verbally and physically drains or sap the strength away from the victim.

You need to take care of yourself emotionally and spiritually to keep your self esteem intact. It is much easier to make healthy decisions when you’re mentally and emotionally healthy.

If you’ve been abused before, take time to heal before you move on. Once you’re free from your abusive relationship, you need to take time to rebuild yourself. Don’t jump into another relationship while still nursing a broken heart.

Domestic violence and sexual assault go hand-in-hand. Sexual and gender violence cannot be eliminated without changing the culture.

Abuse is a social illness passed down over generations. It is a learned behaviour. Boys learn it from their abusive dads.

If children see it or hear violence, it becomes dangerous to them. And alcohol and drug abuse adds fire to men’s anger and their abusive behaviour.

Domestic violence causes far more pain than bruises and scars.

It is devastating to be abused by someone that you love and who you think loves you in return.

I’d like to humbly beg my fellow men to stop abusing their partners.

Boys and girls of today are the men and women of tomorrow and must be taught the dangers of abuse from early childhood so they grow up with the right attitude towards each another.

Abuse can be cured if men acknowledge that women are not their worst foes, but their best friends.

Dear men, let our women put their trust in us.

The writer Paul Harrison said trust is like paper – once crumpled, it can’t be straightened.

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