One of the greatest mysteries of life, I have come to learn, is how it is that good girls seem to always fall for bad boys. I have sat on this thought for a very long time and I am yet to come up with a tangible answer to this perplexing situation. Well, perhaps it’s true after all, some things will never make sense. Fact is stranger than fiction sometimes. So, anyone willing to put me out of my misery and willing to shed light on this issue, feel free to engage. “Bad boys, bad boys, whatcha gonna do, whatcha gonna do when they come for you?” goes a popular song. It seems that bad boys have one up on the good guys out there in our communities, at least when it comes to the romance side of things. What could be their secret ingredient? Methinks, when debating this topic, our focus should not lean much towards these guys. Everyone needs some good loving, hey? But it is the women who fall in love with them that I would prefer the spotlight be shone on. What makes them date guys who instil fear whenever they walk the streets, when not many would want to touch them, even with the proverbial barge pole? Could it well be that society is placing an expectation on these girls, who are often charmed by the look and persona of these blokes? Or is it a true example of ‘love is blind’? These questions remain unanswered for the time being.I remember when we were very young and impressionable; we used to see these things unfolding right in front of our eyes. Men from ko eKasi, young and old, who engaged in all sorts of vile activities, somehow managed to attract the most beautiful of girls. On the contrary, those hard-working fellas with 9-5 jobs, the suit and tie-clad type, were never popular with the women, and one always wondered why this was the case. I know that women in general love to have that feeling of being protected by their partners at all times, and it has been suggested that going out with a bad boy provides just that. After all, who’s to touch or inflict harm on “intombi kasaziwayo”? It’s not from experience that I write this, but I can imagine nothing bruises the ego more than being overtaken by a bad boy to a girl’s heart. I have seen graduates or high-flying dudes trying unsuccessfully to win over a woman, only for the same woman to be giving in to the advances of a well-known bad boy. I noticed this phenomenon even back in high school, where the rowdy boys would get all the attractive chicks, leaving some of us empty-handed. I hated it! Even to this day this habit continues. What I find sad is that at times you find that the woman is experiencing the harsh sort of abuse at the hands of a bad boy, but she vows that leaving him would be the last option. When she gets a beating, she reasons that it is because her boyfriend loves her. Thus, she is proud to tell all and sundry, “so-and-so beats me, but it’s because he loves me.” Even when she is adamant that she is finally done with him, it is always only a matter of time before she goes back to his ‘loving arms’. If he happens to be in the slammer, he is secured of a visit.