Blacks should up the ante and display pride

2017-01-26 06:02
opinion thembile ndabeni

opinion thembile ndabeni

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There is not a single national group in South Africa that is giving Black people the respect they deserve as human beings.

Coloureds don’t see themselves as Black, therefore they feel close to Whites than Blacks. Yet they are Natives of South Africa just like Black people, fellow Africans, while White people originate from Europe. Indians feel more comfortable because of their wealth. Whites are stuck to the attitude of White supremacism.

In power or not Blacks call these other groups, Sir, Madam and Baas because of age or positions, but white people and other non-black don’t return this courtesy.

Black people cannot respect even themselves while other racial groups respect themselves and each other.

In terms of African values among black people respect is given to any elder. Also professionally speaking people are called by their titles: Mr, Mrs, Miss, Sir and Madam, and not with their first names.

There is one thing black people master above other groups, I am sure in the whole world, is respecting other people. In their culture they don’t call elders by their names hence tata (father) and mama (mother) etc. But they call Black elders by their names in professional matters instead of tata or mama. If you raise concern they ask you if you are not proud of your name and surname, or ‘isn’t that your name’? Yet all White people are Sir/Madam or mam and even in Afrikaans meneer/juffrou. Even they fail to do it professionally and call fellow Blacks Mr or Uncle. A Black person would go to an extent of scratching their head when they talk to a White person or Indian or a Coloured, even if they are out of sight. When it comes to their own people it is an opposite.

I am one person who cannot tolerate such. Each time a person calls and says ‘may I speak to Thembile Ndabeni’, my response is ‘is this not a business call? Am I your friend’? Or I would respond ‘Mr Thembile Ndabeni speaking’.

If it is a Black person I tell them, ‘to Whites and other people (not black) you say Mr, Mrs, Sir or Madam. But because it’s me you call me by my name’. If it’s other people (non-black) I also tell them that ‘you don’t call me by my title as you do other people (non-black)’. I don’t compromise because that’s where it starts.

What about the way we speak, hair and looks. We feel comfortable in speaking with fake English accent. When they speak IsiXhosa/isiZulu/Sesotho etc., do other racial groups want to sound like us? Why do you become ashamed of yourself if you fail to pronounce foreign (white) language proper? Do they care or feel guilty for not being able to pronounce yours at all? They take an offence when you pronounce words from their language incorrectly. We also participate in that.

Why would you be ashamed if you understand their language and not perfect but can speak, yet they know nothing about yours? Who should be ashamed the one who knows not only theirs but other languages as well than the who only know theirs?

This attitude of being apologists doesn’t take black people anywhere. If a white person or another person of colour bumps to a black person or bump on each it is the black person that will apologize. They are inferior to such that some even today don’t believe that you can lay a charge against a white person if they are on the other side of the law or discriminates you.

Why do black people use fake hair and feel good? They always strive to look like other racial groups, but nobody strives to look black.

On Sunday, 15 January 2016, in My Perfect Wedding, when a groom was asked about why she chose the colours she preferred? She said she saw them from white people. It was not about the people but about the fact that they were white.

During the dark days of Apartheid we were conscientised to be proud of whom we are. Black Consciousness Movement used to say “Black is Beautiful”. Black people do not fall in the trap of Michael Jackson who didn’t want to accept the fact that he was not white.


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