Do unto others as you would they do to you

2017-11-16 06:00
house of truthThembile Ndabeni

house of truthThembile Ndabeni

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I have love for people. And it is something that I do not derive any compensation for.

I am yours and you mine and therefore we belong to one another (ndingowenu, ningabam).

I am not trying to be popular here, for not many people recognise that I ma the author of these articles.

I am trying to demonstrate that I am striving to present issues affecting us.

But within that context, I want to categorically state when you cross the line I have to challenge you as I do to other institutions and people.

The truth does not differentiate between colour, class, creed, wealth and poverty.

I am hurting. I recently attended a memorial service. It was of a young person that I was familiar with.

However, I was shocked to see the number of people inside the house.

Most people inside the house were family members. Outside in the tent there was nobody at all. It was on a Thursday, a day declared as the last day of the vigil(usuku lomlindo).

The last day of prayer is always full of people and also of preachers.

I was wondering why the house was empty, and was informed that the answer lay in the shenanigans of the nephew of the deceased. He is a notorious delinquent in the area.

I understand when you are angry towards somebody who doesn’t change but continues doing wrong; however, punishing others around him is not right. You can attend the prayer service, if needs be you say, if it was not for the deceased, I wouldn’t be here.

If we do that as a result of somebody else and not the deceased, how much more is it when it is the deceased you have issues with.

How is it possible for a preacher to hold a grudge and “gang up” against a person, but continues to preach the Word of God? Do they qualify to preach forgiveness?

Church-goers, how comfortable are they to be called ‘children’ of God, yet they judge.

What’s upsets me more was that until he passed on, people who were still around him bore witness that the deceased was still “sweet” as usual.

Must the “sweet” be punished for the wrongdoing of his nephew?

Another blow was the non-attendance of the deceased’s comrades, should I rather say former comrades because he was no longer active.

Even so, the former comrades were supposed to have a feel for each other.

I am appealing to our people to try to control emotions in favour of rationality when dealing with issues.

Former comrades, whether they have changed the line of thinking or ideology, should support each other in whatever way they can.

We must always remember what the people did for us before rather than focusing only at the present.

In this country, the families of worst people were never punished after 1994, including the defenders of Apartheid.

Mandela as the “father of the Rainbow Nation” who encouraged forgiveness was very good at forgiving outsiders. He would go to an extent of talking good about the people who badly treated him and his people both in jail and outside.

Then how much with the innocent “sweet soul” who is punished because of his nephew’s wrongdoing?

Remember you bury the person once. Prayer-service is the last respect you pay if you will not be able attend the funeral.

The funeral is last respect you pay to the deceased not attending either or both without a valid reason will haunt you the rest of your life (especially if you don’t have issues with him/her).

Let’s not turn back on who we are (as born by our parents and created by the parent of us all, God), warm, caring and loving. Love conquers all and God is Love!


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