Flowers are not for the faint hearted in love

2016-12-01 06:00
on the run lunga adam

on the run lunga adam

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I was walking down Adderley Street the other day-in the company of a colleague- after a hard day’s slog, when I caught sight of the glint in his eye, a sure sign of uneasiness.

I quizzed him, and he let go that as we were walking past the ubiquitous flower sellers, shivers ran up his spine.

He further revealed that he was suffering from anthophobia-the morbid or irrational fear of flowers, since he associated these with death.

This gave me pause for thought, and realised that we, as Black people, have developed processes that are far more different than other nations.

I figured that my poor friend was not the sole anthophobist here.

Even with matters concerning romance, I have seldom come across one of us presenting their love interest with flowers.

It is not even a topic that comes up for discussion, mind you.

Yho. I imagine a guy disembarking from a taxi at a busy rank-after work- with a bouquet in hand, for the benefit of a loved one.

Imagine also the jeers, the taunts, leers, with gaped mouths. Suffice to say that by the time he gets to the door of his conquest, his romantic ego would have been crushed to smithereens.

Black people just ain’t cut from that cloth.

Anthophobia aside, there is some consolation about the way we do things, though.

Black Friday. A phenomenon that occurs every last Friday of November of every year, where most shops sell wares at half the normal price.

Why they call it thus, I do not know, but what I know for sure is that Black people come out in droves to take advantage of the specials on offer on this day.

Some even start queuing outside these businesses a day before the actual spree.

Blacks and freebies are like yours truly and his glass; joined at the hip.

Black people did not even feel insulted with the connotation behind this day. I understand it is steeped in the history of slavery, where slaves went for a song on the last Friday of November of every year. Hence Black Friday.

Well, I, for one, do not have a problem with that. Why can’t people be allowed to spend their hard-earned cash the way they feel like, for just once a year.

We know how expensive food and clothing items are these days. The timing could also not have been better, what with Christmas lurking on the horizon.

This debate just wouldn’t be worth it without the mention of the Tupperware.

Only the totally blind would not notice that in almost every Black household, Tupperware takes pride of place, in the kitchen or the dining room.

I think these give households a semblance of dignity and tradition.

This reminds me of those word frames which seemed a permanent feature in most homes in our younger days.

Some of the messages would read thus: “Undibilisela amanzi nje awakho ayatsholoza” to “Ndibulale kodwa xa uphakamisa icephe, uze ucinge abantwana bam.”

Some of these inscriptions bordered on the hilarious and harsh.

When one was at a house headed by a single parent and saw these frames, one somehow got the feeling that this was a woman scorned.

Sadly, and with the passage of time, there are less of these nowadays.

These days, people choose to vent their aspirations and anger on social networks. Our people also seem to attach great value to public holidays now.

Well, dear reader, I wanted to indulge you more on this topic, but I gotta bounce off, before my better half asks: “Baby, undithengele ntoni for i World Aids Day?” Peace.

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